Preparing in advance for the Consultation will enable you to obtain maximum value from it. Take time to read through and do the exercises included on the following pages. These are only for your use and reflection and need not be discussed during the Consultation, unless you wish. Allow yourself to be expansive and to enjoy the process.
When you are ready, call to schedule a 2 hour appointment.
Come to the Consultation with an objective for it: what it is you wish to explore and/or clarify
Two weeks following the Consultation, you will be sent a brief summary of the meeting, highlighting key points that were raised.
A full programme of Consultations over a six month period may be agreed to guide you towards achieving your goals and objectives. Regular email, skype or phone support is also available and can be arranged.
This Self-Assessment is designed to assist you to reflect on areas of your life that are important for you. The self-knowledge you gain will enable you to receive the most value from your Consultation. Make notes and answer as many of the questions as you can. The insights you receive are primarily for your own use and may not be part of the discussion.
1. Personal Assets
Assets are often thought about in terms of material wealth alone, but it is really worth measuring our 'wealth' in much broader terms. Think about what you value most.
- What are your personal assets or qualities?
(Sense of humour, compassion, generosity etc)
- Who are your people assets?
(Spouse, parents, children, friends, network, etc)
- What are your material assets?
(Investments, house, books, jewellery, art etc)
Reflect broadly on the wealth of skills you have, including the more mundane, such as driving, riding a bicycle, reading etc
- What skills did you learn early in life, and still practise?
- What are the vocational skills you most enjoy?
- What leisure or recreational skills do you use?
- What are the skills you have learned but not used recently?
- What skills have you practised and developed in the last three years?
Interests could range from anything for which you devote a keen level of enthusiasm to a mild, passive or distant sense of 'I might pursue this if I had more time/money/inclination'.
- What do you most enjoy reading, or discovering more, about?
- What interests did you pursue as a young adult?
- Are there any interests you had to put aside for other priorities in your life?
- Are your interests more related to people, information or materials?
- What about the world in which you live fascinates you the most?
- What are the interests that you now actively pursue?
As with the questions on Skills, think in broadest terms about your Achievements. Your greatest sense of satisfaction and meaning may come from relatively 'small' accomplishments. Note those that gave you greatest value.
- Which of your achievements have given you greatest pleasure?
- Which small success has given you most satisfaction?
- Have you most enjoyed achieving results alone, or with others?
- What do you consider your most significant accomplishment to date?
Our values give us possibly the greatest source of self-motivation and are not necessarily those we have inherited from our family, community or nation. It is vital to gain awareness of our personal values, which are usually heartfelt and reflect deep caring and our sense of esteem.
- Who are the people in your life you care most about?
- What in your current lifestyle do you most appreciate?
- Do you have a spiritual focus or direction in your life?
- What would you miss the most if it were taken away from you?
- What current condition in the world most touches your sense of caring and concern?
- How would you like to be remembered?
Opening your imagination to dreams you have held in the past, and maybe forgotten, or to dreams that inspire you now, releases energy from the heart and opens the possibility for new fulfilment in the future.
If you could do, be or have anything you wanted in the world................ What would that be?
What were your fondest dreams as a small child?
What is the one adventure you would most like to have in your life?
If you could create it for yourself, what would be your happiest moment?
What image or vision brings the greatest feeling of joy in you?
What is your idea of bliss?
What games did you most enjoy playing as a child?
HAPPINESS - WHAT IS IT FOR YOU?
Allow yourself to do this exercise very spontaneously. Be free to express whatever comes to mind. There are no 'right' or 'wrong' answers to these questions.
Write down the opening words and complete the statements at least five times, or more if you can. You may be surprised with what you discover.
Happiness is ......
I am happy when I ......
A happy moment was when I .........
WHAT IS YOUR POSSIBLE DREAM?
A Possible Dream is defined as that which you really want to be, do or have. The questions below will assist you to begin clarifying your Dream, the source of your personal energy, motivation, meaning and purpose in your life now.
Do not be concerned if you have few answers to the questions immediately, or if they seem sketchy or incomplete. The answers that are relevant for you will come to mind in due course. Remember that your Possible Dream reflects what is true for you and is not to be measured by others' expectations.
What might be your Possible Dream - the life you could be leading that will be most rewarding, fulfilling and satisfying for you?
If you could make a single significant contribution to the world, what would that be?
What might stand in the way or your making that contribution: from within yourself? from outside of yourself?
Which of your personal strengths will most support you in making this contribution?
What skills or abilities will you need to develop?
What apparent limitations do you need to transform into assets in order to successfully realize and fulfil your Possible Dream?
The Quest question is designed to focus your mind on what is a priority for you right now.
What would you most like to be, to do or to have that would make a significant improvement to your experience of life?
The Consultation will be directed by the objective you have for it. The objective can be detailed or open, according to what you are seeking. personally and/or professionally. Think about:
What is your intention for the Consultation?
What would you like to receive?
What outcomes would you like as a result of the Consultation?